Christian Dating

Subject: Christian Dating Fri Jun 20, 2008 2:42 pm

I was just wondering what the guys of mad 4 christ want to see in a christian girl and what the girls of mad 4 christ want to see in a christian guy.
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Subject: Re: Christian Dating Fri Jun 20, 2008 6:54 pm

Well, I don't date yet. I'm not ready for it, and, quite frankly, most guys my age (and even older) aren't even close to being ready for a commitment like that either. If I have enough trouble with friends (of both genders) Sad

, I don't think I could even think about dating.
If I ever were to date though, he'd definitely have to, first and foremost, be a strong follower of Jesus. Then, he'd also have to be loyal to me, stick up for me, stick with me even through hard times, be open and honest with me and share problems/difficulties, be emotional [if that makes sense...see, I would want him to be able to cry, and not be ashamed of that, even though a lot of guys are] and finally, love me for who I am. There are many other things I'd look for in a guy, but those, to me, are the most important. I feel like I'm missing some...but idk. I might remember later, when other people post. Smile

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its good to have some standards like a strong relationship with Jesus and honest wiht you and stuff like that but dont have to many of those, because then that would temp you to look at guy and think hmm he doesnt live up to this expectation or this one or this one. i mean its good to have some standards and what not but i think you have to be open-minded about it as well.

Admin Age : 15 Joined : 06 May 2008 Posts : 468

Admin Age : 15 Joined : 06 May 2008 Posts : 468

Oh and something else... we can't just sit back and pray about it and trust God. We have to pray and trust God too, but we also have to take action for ourselves. We can't just set standards for a guy/girl and then expect everything to work out. Because it won't just happen like that. We have to work for it too and set standards for ourselves. All of us that posted so far said that the guy/girl should have a strong relationship with Jesus. So we should work at that ourselves too. It's not enough to just pray for and set standards for our future spouses, we need to put some effort in too by evaluating our own lives, standards, and relationships with God. I know we're just teens and marriage might seem kinda far off for some of us, but it's amazing how decisions we make today can affect not only our future marriage, but our future spouse.
So, yeah, just some things to think about.

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-Proverbs 4:25-26
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lol quite an elaboration right there molly lol oh and molly im getting married tomorrow for goodness sakes lol

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i think u got u did that lol
oh didnt u get the memo?

Subject: Re: Christian Dating Thu Oct 02, 2008 10:12 am

Well, I actually have pretty strict standards in this area now. They are still in my head. But I will be typing all my standards out soon and instead of just having it for myself, I will be giving out copies to 4 of my friends. The idea in that is accountability. I want them to be able to say, hey that guy you are talking to is good for you, he lives up to your standards. Or, hey, Emily, do you remember that list, the guy you are talking to does not have the same values as you. So they can help be accountable for my life.

Another thing I want to mention, just because I have certain standards doesn't mean they are all perfect. I will be putting Bible verses with most of my standards, but some of them are just rules I live by that I want in a guy.
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Admin Age : 15 Joined : 06 May 2008 Posts : 468

That's a great idea, Emily. It's good to let your close friends know about your standards as well so that they can hold you accountable to them, like you said. Because sometimes when you meet a guy that you're really interested in, it's easy to look over things that you feel strongly about and compromise on your standards. But if close friends can hold you accountable to them, then it won't be so easy. So yeah, that's a great idea.
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Well, I think that I have "matured" when it comes to this topic. I remember my friends and I used to pick out what color hair he was going to have and all this tupid stuff, where as now, all I truly care about is the inside. The most important thing is his relationship with God and how much He wants God to be the center of us. Also, purity and the standards he has set for himself. But I think an important thing to think about is it's not fair for me to set standards for him when I do not set them for myself. I think since I am not dating yet, my focus should be on making myself a better future girlfriend/wife. I want to establish the qualities that will make me better at it. Also, Emily that is a great idea. Emily K.

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hypothetically, what if there is a guy one of you girls like and yeah he wants to wait until marriage to have sex and all that but he doesnt see anything wrong with kissing, would u still consider dating him?

Joined : 02 Jul 2008 Posts : 157 Location : Pa

Oh yeah, definately. I think it's a desicion we have to make together. If we aren't strong enough as a couple we might have to adjust it a little, but I don't think it would be a huge issue. There's also a part of me that wants a guy who hasn't kissed any other girl. I don't know it's just a thought.

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ok lets say the guy hasnt kissed another girl but yet you two are dating and he wants to kiss u, what woudl you do?